Love is one of the biggest contradictions in life. It can be blissful and if it doesn`t work out – the biggest stumbling block ever.
Assuming you are here because it hasn`t worked out and you are in search of a way you can get him or her back, this is how you do it.
So, ask yourself this one question – do you really need him or her back in your life, do you need to get your love back? This is the most crucial decision you’ll ever take in your life, even bigger than actually falling in love – because this decision is the answer for the question that Level 1 is all about, one that could possibly make your life better. Take time, but decide on whether you want to continue or you want to quit, because wanting someone in your life is very different from needing someone – want will fade or can get replaced eventually, but need is a necessity of life.
Congratulations! We’ve heard that your mind and your heart are on the same page – it’s a good thing and we sincerely hope it isn’t an alliance of convenience, because going forward; moves like these will cost you a lot if you just go by your instincts – and if you keep letting your sexy heart seduce your nerdy mind
If he or she gets a feeling that you’re trying to reach out, mend fences and trying hard to plead or trying to get your love back, then it will only make you look even more desperate and vulnerable
So, coming back to the earlier questions: Are you happy with where you stand in life, how you live your life, where you work or study and what you’ve planned for yourself? Well, if the answer is an affirmative, then your partner was probably mad – because nobody would want to lose a self assured, confident and lovable person who knows what they are doing with their life. However, considering that your lover isn’t completely insane – and assuming for a second that you aren’t either – we are left with the realization that you aren’t happy with what you’ve been doing, or you’ve got it all wrong while putting forth what you believed as your path in life – obviously you wouldn’t be here if you were happy with your life, because your partner would also have been happy and content
It is very important for you to keep your lousy heart out of this deal – because you could very well assume something that is strength to be a weakness. I know your heart is planning a nuclear attack and is strolling through the arms market to buy the most lethal stuff on sale, while on the other hand – your mind is all sad and sordid, crying its heart out in a lowly street bar. This is where you need to realise, the war is all in your head – it isn’t about the guy or girl your lover is dating but how your crazy heart is winning over your mind. Your lover will be damn curious and leaving them alone as they date will only make your love miss you even more. If you want to get your love back, it is important to critically assess where you’ve actually gone wrong, what your weaknesses are and to consciously start working on them
Great work, you’re half way up the ladder! This is the stage that you need no guidance about, you just need to build on your strengths and make the best use of every opportunity that comes your way. It is your chance to be the person your lover had always imagined you to be, and to be honest – what you had promised them (and yourself) you’d be. Get to work, get fit, learn new things, choose a career or a path you’ve always wanted pursue, pick up that hobby you’d been putting off for so long and realise you are doing this for yourself too. Actually this is all for yourself – getting your love back is just a path to self perfection. This is the stage where you are back in the game – like a star.
Look at yourself in the mirror and you’ll be happy with what you see. You aren’t as desperate as before to win him or her back – you are getting ready, and we promise you’ll win the game if you stay on track. Level 7 is like a getting ready for the fight, much like how a matador prepares before he goes in to tame the bull, or how a pilot prepares himself for takeoff. A healthy body – check, a strong mind – yes, a reasonable dream and a clear plan – yes. Let me explain, it is not necessary to have good looks, everyone isn’t a Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, a healthy and a fit body is very much a sign that you are mentally fit and disciplined. Anyone would look attractive then; it isn’t about the shape or size. It is also important for you to clear your mind. You are like a war machine in its prime – you can do anything and you are good at whatever you do. This stage is about building your confidence, being the person and the personality that you want to be. It’s that phase where the heart walks up and gives the mind a pat on the back. You’ve reclaimed yourself.
But we all know, that your mind’s a clever fellow – he’s always on the watch, and now that the heart and the mind are like colleagues if not the best of buddies yet, it is important for you to know that it is possible that your love might still be in a relationship, and you’ve no right whatsoever to try and mess things up with his or her “rebound”. Be there in the car park, we know it’s hot out there are the seats are burning, but stay where you are – let your love see this Ferrari in all its glory, as he or she walks back to the Toyota and then, it’ll hit them. Give them (your lover’s heart and mind) time to sort things out before your lover actually realises that while the Toyota is a useful car that’s been there for them when they needed it, it is not something that they’d want in their garage when they retire in the Bahamas.
Here’s where you stand, and with all the points in your kitty as you rose through the levels – your love knows that you ARE a Ferrari, one that is way better than the rest and actually something he or she thought you would be, back then. Know what his or her perspective actually is, and you could give your partner some confidence by telling them what you’ve learnt in the time spent apart and how you’ve learnt it.
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